Comments on: The Introvert’s Guide to People

By: Lauren

Lauren — Wed, 12 May 2010 23:32:39 +0000

We (introverts) are always looking for ways to accomodate and fit in with extroverts. I wonder why it doesn’t work the other way around.

I too I have my own agenda. I am a creative, generally quiet at work, don’t like small talk…rather discuss philosophy or religion. I set my own rules without coming off as rude or unpolite. I let it be known how I like to work (need structure, schedules, google talk to communicate,) otherwise I loose focus. By explaining (politely) to my coworkers that I am most efficient in this matter, they work around my agenda and totally respect and value my work.

It should go both ways. And its beginning to work for me.

When I network, (in person) I make it a goal to meet and talk to 3 new people–and that is it (small talk, and get a good conversation going, connect, exchange business cards) for the sake of business. If I don’t feel too tired of talking to others, I go for another 4.

Being an “innie,” as some people call it, is completely fine! It is our natural temperament.

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By: Tonia

Tonia — Thu, 22 Apr 2010 16:09:09 +0000

I can’t decide which one that I am! Some say I analyze things before I speak, which makes me very quiet at times. Other’s say I am so good at mingling in a crowd and finding things to talk about, just light topics, nothing deep. This is true. What I don’t understand is my co worker. She says she’s introverted, and I can see that in her, but when someone stops by her cubical to ask one question, she never knows when to stop opening a new topic and just let them leave! She will give an answer, then sigh and start asking so how are doing? how are the kids? Do you have any summer plans.. .blah blah blah. I only have two people that come to my cube to say Hi how’s it going and I’m okay chatting with them for a while, but if they stop by with a question I answer it, and then I expect it to be finished. I can’t stand it when they want to start in with “thanks! So how’s it going anyway?” I think to myself, so how long do I need to keep up this side bar conversation now?? Is that just rude of me, or am I just business only? :) I go for walks by myself during work, because if I bring this co-worker, she will TALK THE ENTIRE TIME> seriously! She won’t stop either until I answer her. It’s exhausting. :)

By: jh

jh — Wed, 17 Mar 2010 13:10:48 +0000

i am an introvert too. This is a great website for introverts. haha. but the thing is, i can speak really well with my close friends or even much much more better than them, and hence, my close friends would think that i am an extrovert. But however, when it comes to strangers or group chat, i would be quiet(all i would do is laugh). I truly agree that introverts can only really make true friends with another introvert…I am one of them and we really made very close and great friends! Extroverts only make shallow relationship with all their friends but they have lots of them…while introverts have fewer friends but their friends tend to be very close with them and friendships will last long. So that means in times of crisis, extroverts tend to die very fast…while introverts will have their friends by their side…Introverts tend to be smater too and they can also be viewed as smart person than extrovert even though extroverts can have fame and be popular in groups and that introverts are seen as “anti-social” which can be hurting. All in all, i prefer to be an introvert and extrovert at the right time even though it is kinda difficult. :) All the best! Introverts are smart, caring and loving people!

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By: Layne

Layne — Sun, 06 Dec 2009 07:17:11 +0000

I enjoyed your article. It seems like networking today is more difficult the years ago. We didn't have the internet social network. Which means we actually went out there and met with people, connected. Networking is also about connecting, creating relationships. Being introverted does make it more of an effort, but it is still the same process. We all have to do it. We have to get out there in the real world and meet and socialize. It's not all about the “agenda.” Connecting isn't all about what “I” can get through the introduction. It's about finding and cultivating friendships, connections, and other people who we can help along the way.

By: Justin- AlittleBetter.net

Justin- AlittleBetter.net — Mon, 16 Nov 2009 12:44:11 +0000

I believe that communication is one of the key points to life. I am a proud introvert, though I have learned that I can start a good conversation just about anywhere. The thing is to make it a practice, and to push your comfort zones constantly. Most people want to connect with others just as much as you do. Especially in a city. It is sad how lonely the places with more people have become.

By: chompermom

chompermom — Sun, 15 Nov 2009 19:13:55 +0000

I'm an introvert, and I've also been extremely shy in the past! I have a lot of trouble being open with people. I did go through a stage where I was TOO open. And that caused me a lot of trouble, so I went through a stage with serious trust issues. I've been blocking myself off from the world for the last couple years.

Just recently, I started being more open on my blog. Put a pictures up with my face, wrote about more personal things, and invited all the people I went to school with to come and see the new me. It was scary! and it's still a bit nerve-wracking at times. But I've seen some big payoffs.

The funny thing about me being introverted/shy is that I am really, really interested in people! I love all the stories, especially since I've been traveling. There are so many people that I see on the street that I want to go up to and start asking questions. But I don't know where to start. It's been a great thing for me to have the Internet...I started with ICQ back in 1998, and it really helped me build confidence. It's so much easier to write about things online than to talk about them face to face.